“So, What Is It Like To Be You?”

Since that question came to my mind a couple days ago, it has not been far from my conscious thinking. Monday Night at the men’s group I lead, I shared this with them. Our table leader proceeded to ask each man around the table, “So what is it like to be you?” Almost every man gave us a look inside. Last night at our couples life group that meets at our home, I went around the room to each person and asked, “So, what is it like to be you.” In a phone conversation with my son yesterday I asked the same question.

It is a profound relationship building question. Most are taken back, because they’ve never been asked the question before. Eventhough it is a simple, straight-forward question, the first response to it often will be, “What do you mean?” The answer can be as shallow or as deep as the person’s ability to trust you with the answers.

For most my life, I would have to say my first inclination is to tell you about me, not ask you about you. I really am hoping to see that area of my life change. I feel an excitement inside thinking about asking that question and listening to the answers. I believe the relationships in my world that are most important to me are going to improve simply through caring enough to ask this question and listening to the answers. The question won’t lose its power because the answer may be different from week to week. Life is such an adventure, and I believe this question will help me live life for all it is worth!



About Scott Ranck

Enjoying life with my wife Gayle and our Yorkie, Zoe boy. I've come to believe life begins when through brokenness I can embrace it fully and openly. I've learned the human drama is an adventure and all of us are made of the same stuff. The Lord is the only being who knows me fully and he has an individual educational plan of life long learning for me and I'm enrolled. This blog is all about what I'm learning.
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2 Responses to “So, What Is It Like To Be You?”

  1. Russ Bailey says:

    Hey Scott … I like the idea of asking “whats it like to be you” coupled with your thoughts of more telling of yourself rather than asking about someone. I really think that for the most part everyone is proud of what they have accomplished in life or maybe want to share issues they are having a hard time dealing with but … I’ve found that as I get older (don’t go there) I realize that asking about the other person and (this is the important part) being interested in what they have to say … is getting easier for me.

    Another chapter in the getting older deal is that the older you get, the more you can relate to just about everything … I think this is called experience. Only thing is, this bounces you back to the “me” thing instead of the “you” … eventually, if you live long enough, you will get your chance to tell your story to someone who will listen with interest.


    Russ Bailey

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