So after writing yesterday’s thoughts on Chapter 4 of Henry Cloud’s book, “Integrity,” I went out for a five mile run. On my way out I’m thinking of how difficult it has been over the years to get people to hear me. Then as so often happens the Lord begins to interupt my thought process with His! I was reminded of how the older people at the church I pastored in VA had asked for meetings to discuss what I was doing to “their church.” I had the meetings but never heard what they said because I was sure I had the plan to lead the church forward! I pictured how many times Gayle has said, “You don’t listen very well, don’t you remember I shared that with you yesterday?” I was reminded how often my kids sharing something with me from their hearts and it turned into a lecture from good ole dad! It was like the Lord said to me, “You really need Chapter 4 and its concepts for you.” It hit me how much I never really cared to listen to your hearts because I was too wrapped up in what is happening in my own.
Then the biggest lesson of the run was given to me. In a conversation/prayer during the run of wondering how I could change to be a better listener I really believe the Lord gave me this thought; “Why not ask, So, what’s it like to be you!” I shared this concept with our men’s group last night and our table leader went around the table and ask each man the question. It gave us all a peek into each other’s world and it was good.
I’ve been captured by the curiosity and adventure of this question ever since it hit my mind. I can’t wait to walk and talk with Gayle and hear her unpack her heart to me. I really am looking forward to how this one question will change my life and my listening! “So, what is it like to be you?”