Since that question came to my mind a couple days ago, it has not been far from my conscious thinking. Monday Night at the men’s group I lead, I shared this with them. Our table leader proceeded to ask each man around the table, “So what is it like to be you?” Almost every man gave us a look inside. Last night at our couples life group that meets at our home, I went around the room to each person and asked, “So, what is it like to be you.” In a phone conversation with my son yesterday I asked the same question.
It is a profound relationship building question. Most are taken back, because they’ve never been asked the question before. Eventhough it is a simple, straight-forward question, the first response to it often will be, “What do you mean?” The answer can be as shallow or as deep as the person’s ability to trust you with the answers.
For most my life, I would have to say my first inclination is to tell you about me, not ask you about you. I really am hoping to see that area of my life change. I feel an excitement inside thinking about asking that question and listening to the answers. I believe the relationships in my world that are most important to me are going to improve simply through caring enough to ask this question and listening to the answers. The question won’t lose its power because the answer may be different from week to week. Life is such an adventure, and I believe this question will help me live life for all it is worth!