Two nights ago, I had a vivid, clear, movie like dream. My wife of 43 years had been out somewhere and was mugged. A young, strapping, 19-year old, named Colby, fought off her attackers and saved her. The first scene of my dream, was Gayle explaining this story to me.
Then the bombshell. During the rescue and following gratitude, she fell for Colby. She told me that as well. When she told me, we were standing in front of a fancy hotel somewhere. She said, Colby was coming to get her. About then he came pulling into the hotel and she said, here comes Colby. He got out of his car and I approached him, as I did, he backed away and said he didn’t want any trouble. I said, I don’t want trouble either, I just want to meet you. Then he bypassed me and went right to my wife and they hugged and I don’t know that I’ve ever seen her so happy. I woke up, got up and went to the bathroom and came back to bed and as soon as sleep came the third scene of the dream did as well.
Gayle was going to marry this 19-year old kid. I was very upset and saying, we’ve been married 43 years, you are 63 years old and you are going to marry a 19- year old kid! But when I saw there was no changing her mind, and when I saw how happy she was, something in me changed. I told her, I loved her with all my heart and wanted her to be happy and if this was her choice, I thought it only fitting that I walk her down the aisle and give her away in marriage. I said, you’ve been mine for 43 years, who else should give you away.
The dream was so vivid, I remembered every detail. I lead a men’s group at our church. Unfortunately, I’ve had many men never wake up to how much they really love their wives until something like my dream happens for real and their spouse is on her way out the door.
My Gayle is the most committed lady I know. I have never had any reason to believe she would leave me, she has stood by me through thick and thin. I believe my dream was from God. I felt emotion in the dream and really ever since have looked at Gayle through different eyes. I’ve been realizing how blessed I am to have her as my partner.
This morning I bought her some flowers and both the lady at the flower booth and two young men checking me out, asked, what is the occasion? I was able to tell them, I’ve seen too many men not realize what they have until it’s too late. I just wanted her to know I love and appreciate her. I said, we’ve been married 43 years and I think she is staying but I don’t want to take any chances. Then I came home and read in the Message this passage found in Matthew 19:
But Jesus said, “Not everyone is mature enough to live a married life. It requires a certain aptitude and grace. Marriage isn’t for everyone. Some, from birth seemingly, never give marriage a thought. Others never get asked – or accepted. And some decide not to get married for kingdom reasons. But if you’re capable of growing into the largeness of marriage, do it.”