I have been doing much reading of late. One of my favorite writers Lance Dodes, MD has written a couple new works I’ve been reading. Along with some other reading it all came together to gift me with an insight that will bear more fruit as time passes. Dr. Dodes discusses the feeling of being trapped and powerless to change your situation.
That could be illustrated by a child who is in an abusive situation but within themselves can see absolutely no way out. They feel trapped and powerless to change their situation. There may be things an outside person can see to help them but in their own limited thinking and feeling they see no way out. Many humans, if you ponder deeply, may be able to remember a time you had those feelings of being trapped and powerless.
In another reading, I was slapped in the face with the concept of identifying with others rather than comparing myself to others, where almost always I come out the winner! When I identify with others, I put myself in their situation and do my best to identify the commonalities of our life’s experience. When I compare, I look at my strengths and usually compare them to your weaknesses or struggles to make me feel like I am somehow different from you and better than you!
I’m sad to say, most my life I’ve been a comparer (if that is a word) rather than an identifier. This morning my eyes were opened and I desire to learn a new and better way. The way of the identifier.