Continuing on this theme of our personal energy, I want to address the loss of energy due to emotional “leaks.” There are several one liners related to this topic! “Resentment is like peeing your pants and expecting someone else to be uncomfortable.” Or, “Unforgiveness is like having someone live rent free in your head.” They are two of my favorites. The idea is we can use up some of our limited energy supply on a daily basis by not taking proactive measures to eliminate the causes of emotional distress.
When I fail to speak the truth in love or to guard my own boundaries or to deal with things immediately, stuff piles up and I begin to spend large amounts of energy fuming over my perception of those things. Harboring resentments, bitterness, anger, or unforgiveness creates massive emotional energy leaks that can make me more tired than a hard day at work and more depressed than a personal failure.
There are some great tools available to help you unravel these issues. “Emotionally Healthy Spirituality,” by Peter Scazzero is one that comes to mind. “Boundaries, and Necessary Endings,” by Dr. Henry Cloud as well. One other writing that has helped me tremendously is, “Living the Truth,” by Dr. Keith Ablow.
I’m 100% responsible for my own spiritual, emotional and physical life, and so are you. Take some action for your own good to stop the energy leaks from draining you from living fully engaged in the present and looking forward to the future with anticipation.
I was in the audience at Bay Life tonight. Your message was spot-on for me. It has been an incredibly painful and transforming year for me. So many times this past year, I have felt like God was getting me out of my own way. There have been times that I felt like I should just “get over it” and I invalidated my own feelings… never let myself grieve. Something released tonight when I heard your message, so thank you for being up there and being real. Rest assured God is still working through you and for you.