I think most of us grow up thinking our home life was “normal.” After all that is all we knew as a child. Until we got to go to other kids homes and see maybe their home life was different we really didn’t have any thing to compare. I really enjoy looking at the dynamics of my childhood family and even back to grandparents simply to learn. I don’t feel like it is right to blame because in most cases parents did the best they could with what they had to work with. That said, there is so much to learn about yourself and the way you interact with your family and other people. Think about all the scenarios available someone could have as a home of origin. Each of the following could be used to describe the mom or dad. 1. Absent 2. Died while you were young 3. Protective 4. Addicted 5. emotionally engaged. 6. emotionally disengaged 7. Controlling 8. Abusive. I only am using negative traits because they seem to be the ones that hurt us the most. I’ve been attempting to describe to the best of my understanding my parents and then thinking about what impact that would have on a little boy growing up in the environment. What traits would I learn about what it looks like to be a man? To be a husband? To be a father? More on this later, but I have discovered some things that were rather shocking to me. Ponder this?
blessings,
Scott