I’m currently reading two books, the first is "Making Peace with your Father." The second is, "The Mom Factor." Almost all counselors start with your upbringing to help you understand yourself and any issues you might be facing. Our generation seems to want to blame our parents for how we are. They must have really screwed up when I was being potty trained!
I’m reading those books for a different reason. I am an adult that is fully responsible for my own behavior. I want to see what opportunities for growth I can find by better understandning the dynamics of my home life. My parents did some things great and did some things not so great and all of it went together to give me a start in life. How I learn from that upbringing, how I grow as a result of mistakes they made is up to me.
I would encourage anyone reading this to learn from your heritage or lack thereof but never use that as an excuse for your own faults now. Time to take the hand you were played and go with it.